Ever freeze mid-conversation and forget every coping tool you’ve learned?
Walk away from a session, a spiral, or a simple disagreement feeling wrecked?
The problem isn’t you—it’s the tools you’ve been given.
When I started as a therapist, I believed emotional regulation was something I taught others. I thought my job was to be calm, composed, and unaffected—even while sitting in the middle of someone else’s emotional storm.
But nobody really taught me how to regulate my own emotions while staying grounded, present, and real.
It turns out emotional regulation isn’t just for clients.
It’s a life skill. A clinical tool.
And one I wish I’d learned a whole lot sooner.
What Most of Us Aren’t Taught
Whether you’re a therapist, a deep feeler, or someone doing the inner work—there’s often a gap between knowing what to do and actually being able to do it.
We’re taught how emotions work.
We’re taught the theory, the model, the intervention.
But we’re rarely taught how to respond when:
- Your brain blanks during a hard conversation
- You’re carrying emotional fallout from someone else’s crisis
- You spiral from one text, one tone, one trigger
That’s not a failure of willpower.
It’s a nervous system that needs tools—ones that actually work when it counts.
Start With This Free Resource
That’s why I created the Emotional Regulation Starter Kit.
It’s a free, printable resource packed with in-the-moment tools you can use yourself—or with clients, if you’re a clinician.
✅ Inside the Starter Kit:
– A one-minute grounding practice
– A fast body scan to interrupt spiraling
– A self-talk reframe that actually feels human
– Two other go-to strategies from DBT, ACT, and evidence-based approaches
You can:
- Keep it in your therapy binder
- Screenshot a tool for a client in distress
- Use it on your phone when your own nervous system is going sideways
👉 Grab the free Starter Kit here
It’s designed to work even when your brain is offline.
Ready to Go Deeper?
If you’re looking for more structure, more context, and a full suite of DBT-informed tools, the DBT Toolkit: Emotional Regulation Workbook was made for you.
It’s ideal for therapists, clients, and individuals who want more than theory. You’ll get:
✔️ Fillable, printable worksheets
✔️ Guided journaling and real-life examples
✔️ Step-by-step breakdowns of DBT emotion regulation skills like Opposite Action, Check the Facts, and PLEASE
Use it to:
- Structure in-session work
- Assign client-friendly homework
- Support your own emotional growth, one tool at a time
One therapist called it “a clinical life raft—for both of us.”
Want More Support?
🔹 Work with me directly
I offer therapy and coaching for individuals and clinicians. If you’re looking for grounded, compassionate support, let’s talk.
🔹 Prefer a self-paced option?
Online-Therapy.com offers access to licensed therapists, structured emotional tools, and DBT-informed support you can use from anywhere.
Emotional regulation isn’t about being calm all the time.
It’s about having the right tools when things get hard—so you can show up the way you want to.
📥 Start with the free Starter Kit
📘 Dive deeper with the full DBT Toolkit Workbook
